Manipulators are cunning and clever. They often have a good understanding of human psychology, allowing them to coerce you into doing what they want through any means necessary. To be on guard against this, you must first understand the traits of a manipulator.

THEY ACT LIKE AN EXPERT

Manipulators have to sound like they know what they’re talking about to get the results that they want. Unfortunately for them, most of them don’t, so they have to convince you to look at them in a positive light.

THEY GET A FOOT IN THE DOOR FIRST

Manipulators are notoriously charming, and this charm fuels most of their tactics, according to studies. You might think you’re giving them a kind shot at being nice and kind by opening the door a little for them to state their case before deciding if it’s reasonable. Unfortunately, with the charm they have, just that little gap in the “door” is all a manipulator needs.

THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY

Manipulators love to make other people feel guilty because it appeals to the natural empathy and kindness that most of the population share. This kind of manipulators is named “the victim” – they act hurt and pretend to be severely affected by you and things around them, even when they’re usually the cause of the problems they act hurt by.
When you don’t agree to help a “victim”-type manipulator, they’ll usually play up their act even further, causing you to feel guilty. You will then experience a sense of obligation that almost compels you to “help” them – but stop right there! You need to understand better what a manipulator is looking for in you to target you this way.

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THEY PRESENT EXAGGERATED SCENARIOS THAT MAKE YOU QUESTION YOURSELF

Exaggeration can be used liberally by any manipulator to get the reaction they want. They exaggerate their experiences or the wrongs that others have done to them. They exaggerate their levels of need for something and exaggerate how “unreasonable” you’d be if you reject them.

THEY MAKE UNREASONABLE REQUESTS OR OFFERS, PRESENTED AS REASONABLE ONES

Manipulators often try to use the people around them as “tools” to achieve their goals. They might make all sorts of offers to you that are just ways of them disguising their true motive. Their requests will usually be very unreasonable on paper but will be presented so that they sound completely valid.

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