6 WORDS TO STOP SAYING FOREVER

Sometimes we say things without thinking them through because they’re a part of our inherent speech pattern. Still, being more aware of these and controlling them will mean that you can also control the way others see you. If you’d like to project an image of confidence and professionalism, here are some words and phrases to ban from your vocabulary for good.

“CAN’T”

This is probably the most obvious one. No one got anywhere by saying that they can’t do something. Again, that kind of defeatist attitude in your vocabulary will transfer into your mindset as well. It’s good to be aware of your own abilities, but don’t put yourself down like this. Instead, try saying, “I choose not to do this.” That phrase lets you take control back and not be defeated by some unknown power of self-doubt.

“BUT …”

When you make a decision, stand your ground. Prefacing a sentence with “but” makes you sound like you’re doubting yourself and your own ability to make informed choices. For this reason, it is a phrase to ban from your vocabulary. One of the most important lessons you’ll learn in life is to always trust your gut feeling. Even if you suffer from self-doubt, try to eliminate it as much as possible because, nine times out of ten, your gut feeling will be right.

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“JUST”

Using “just” in professional scenarios, such as, “I just wanted to check if this would work,” makes you sound unsure in your own decisions and like you’re gearing up for a failure. You shouldn’t apologize to anyone for taking up their time. You matter, and you deserve to be given the time of day to speak your mind. Always remember that and try to eliminate “just” from your vocabulary as much as possible.

“SHOULD”

When you say you should be doing something, like “I should be working on this project,” it immediately implies that you’re feeling guilty for not doing it. It’s always good to remind yourself of the things you need to complete or achieve, yet remember that everyone works according to their own timeline. It’s not necessarily a failure that you haven’t kept to a strict timeline.

“I HAVE TO …”

This phrase creates the illusion that you don’t have any control over your life and that events just happen. You more or less “have to” put up with them. Every time you say you have to do something, that implies that circumstances are forcing you to do it. Of course, that is sometimes the case – not everything we do is necessarily something we want to do – but you don’t have to be defeatist about it.

“ALWAYS” AND “NEVER”

It’s never a good thing to speak in absolutes (see what I did there?). It means you’re putting a boundary on yourself and tying yourself to a promise that you might not keep. Saying that you’ll always do something or that you’ll never do something puts you in a fragile position, because absolute promises are very hard to keep.

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