HOW TO DEAL WITH ENERGY VAMPIRES

Energy vampires demand a lot from the people they target. This continuous drain on your resources can have a noticeable effect on your well-being. Over time, excess stress can lead to anxiety, depression, heart disease, and more. The ideas below may not work for everyone. Try them and mold your approach as you go until you’re able to feel in control and protected.

Cut them out entirely

In most cases, you have the freedom to excise this person from your life entirely. This may seem dramatic, but you have to remember that you’re protecting yourself in the end.

Guard your emotional capacity

Energy vampires use nonverbal cues to know when they have someone on the hook. Your facial expression, the way you lean in, how you clasp your hands — an energy vampire can take these as signs of your investment. If you instead offer stone-faced responses and only offer short statement to their questions, you won’t open yourself up to their demands, and you can reserve your energy for you.

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Don’t give them an inch

If the energy vampire calls, stops by, or texts, don’t give them the room. You could say that you’ve got plans or don’t feel well. When they keep interfacing with excuses and not getting the emotional energy they need, they’ll look elsewhere.

Adjust your expectations

You can’t fix an energy vampire, but you can reshape your expectations about them. This may involve shutting off your emotional valve and not offering advice when they vent their problems to you. This may also mean you can’t use them as any type of emotional release either. They’ll want to reciprocate.

Establish boundaries

Although this may be easier said than done at first, you can and should develop areas of your life where you won’t allow an energy vampire to enter. Don’t agree to social events like dinner or coffee dates. Avoid weekend trips and other extended events where they’ll be in attendance. At work, you can limit interactions between the two of you by not agreeing to lunches and not stopping by their desk to chat. You may need to start small, focusing on a few areas, and then expand.

No one deserves to be mistreated or used in this manner. By recognizing these behaviors and trying to put an end to it, you’re protecting yourself, your health, and your overall well-being. It’s certainly not your fault. Some people refuse to accept responsibility for their own emotional maturity — and that isn’t your burden to bear.

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